And the two shall become one!

This weekend my best friend got married!   Her wedding was beautiful,  I was so honored to be a part of her special day.  The days leading up to it were full of parties, dinners, shopping, packing, decorating and lots of tears and laughter.   One theme that was throughout the entire affair was the couples faith in God.   They both have a strong personal relationship with the Lord. Along with that they both carry themselves with character and integrity.  It was so nice to be at a wedding that you can feel complete peace and joy about.  Now they are off on a month long honeymoon.  I have this next four weeks to get myself ready to be a best friend to a "married" woman.   I am well aware that this changes a lot in our friendship, and it should.   Before she was married my responsibility as her friend was to make sure she was marrying the right guy, making the right choice ( I never had a doubt with this wonderful man).  Now  I need to make sure that I am always supporting their marriage with my words and actions.  To many friends become sounding boards, hearing all that is wrong about the wife/husband.  My responsibility is to make sure my friend never dishonors her husband or shares things that would compromise their security as a couple.  I have to respect their time as a couple.  No longer can I call her up at anytime to drop everything and meet me.  I can't demand a certain amount of time each week with her.  I shouldn't get offended if we have something planned but she has to cancel because her husband needs her.   Also my prayers for her change.  I am now going to be praying for them as a couple.  I will not be praying for whats best for her, but rather whats best for them.  This is so important since marriage doesn't have the best track record in our culture. I would encourage anyone out there that has married friends to ask God how you can support them best.  Also to ask yourselves if you are supporting any destructive marriage behavior in your friends.   I am excited to be a part of this next step in my best friends life!  I am praying that God guides me how to serve them best.

Mark 10:6-8 "But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female.For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh.So they are no longer two, but one."