Perfectly Female!

 What does embracing your God designed femininity look like in the 21st century? For a few years now I have been asking myself that question. I want to start writing on this topic that in my opinion is very important. I will be writing it in sections so this is just the start.

  I used to be an adamant "feminist".  I cringed at the word submission, I scowled at the mention of a stay at home mom and I argued with anyone who dare mention gender differences.   In my mind admitting that there was a difference between men and woman was to subject myself to a life time of abuse and tyranny.  I remember boiling with anger when my bible school teacher decided to preach on submission in marriage.  I hated hearing a man preach on woman being feminine.  After all who were they to speak?  Had they ever experienced being a woman today?  Had they ever been horribly mistreated because of their sex?  Had they ever been told they couldn't do the one thing they wanted to more than anything else in the entire world simply because they were a girl?  As I grew up, I also grew bitter.  Little did I know that instead of hating the mistreatment of women throughout history, I was really beginning to hate being a woman.  I hated admitting that I was different from men.  I didn't understand that different could be powerful, I saw different as weak.  Often fighting with my very instincts I was determined to be a "powerful" female.  Sadly that meant gaining control of men in an unhealthy and demeaning way.  I thought I was growing in respect, of course I was doing just the opposite.  Not only that but I was tearing down the men around me to make myself feel stronger.  As time went on my personal relationship with Christ strengthened, and without even realizing it God started to change my heart.  I began to understand that a woman's influence could come in a multitude of different ways.  That her true power and strength came through embracing who God made her as a female. Not with trying to imitate males.   We as females have something unique and specific.  God specifically created us female.  When we are working  within the role God designed for us we will be most fulfilled.  That brings us back to the beginning.  What does embracing our God designed femininity look like today?  I think a good spot to start is how God made us different. But I will save that for next time!